Life In the Rough - I Need "Bagger Vance"

[1hope]

BG???? Why is your house torn up?

[Babygirl]

hey packed ALL his stuff left my house a disator and left me

[MT35]

Morning Hope. How was your night? Hope it was relaxing. Take care!

[1hope]

My evening was calm. Went out with a gf to celebrate her birthday. Had some good wine and snacks. H is being very sweet and understanding. I am hoping that I have gotten out all of my misery for a while.

I was so struggling with forgiveness, then the email that BG sent me talked about acceptance before forgiveness. The light bulb went off. I am doing ok with the acceptance. That feels right for me, for now.

[kelaaron]

Hey Hope,

you sound really good and i'm glad the acceptance thing is working for you. Someone told me yesterday that maybe this is exactly what I've needed to get back to me. This whole f'd up mess in my house and the crap hitting the fan and the aftermath. I will tell you that the aftermath has been such a growing and healing time for me even though I feel it has in many ways been the hardest part of the whole thing. That is what you are going through now my friend. Keep your eyes open, I know you disagree with me about OWH and I wasn't implying YOU will do anything but his state of mind is not right and it would be the ultimate payback to your H if he could sway you. Or even make your H think he has. So just exercise great caution with that whole part of it. Nothing worth doing or having comes easily and that is something we should remember. And everything we survive makes us stronger even if we don't like it. So any news on the touch therapy thing?

Nights in Rodanthe is coming today from Netflix. I just love those sort of movies and keep seeing the previews for it so I'm excited about it. Wierd and changing times my friend. But we will all survive and hopefully do it smiling. Hugs.

[Babygirl]

morning namesake! glad you had a fun evening! speakin of that movie kel, I still dont know what its about lol.
love you

[1hope]

I read the book. He is one of my favorite authors (Nicholas Sparks). BG, the book was a wonderful love story about two people that meet after getting divorced. He also wrote The Notebook, Walk to Remember, Message in a Bottle and many others.

Kel, it was good to hear from you. I know that the OWH is not right. And between OWH & OW, he is the more mentally healthy of the two. Scary, huh? I agree that he would enjoy nothing more than to get back at my H, and when I saw what my H's reaction was to the last phone call to me, I realized that communication was not helping our situation. I also don't think that anything else he may tell me will be of any benefit. It will probably hurt. My eyes are open and I don't sit with my back to the door.

I just got my first appt. set up for the tough therapy this afternoon. Not for a couple of weeks yet. I'll let you know how it is. I'm looking forward to it.

[Babygirl]

oh wow, i dont think i could watch that right now, it would break my heart.

i love the notebook watch it over and over.

glad you got your appt set up, keep me posted, i am praying for you!

[1hope]

I don't know BG, it's about a woman finding love again after her jerk H leaves her for a younger woman. It is more about hope than heart break. But things strike us all differently, at our various stages.

Clear skies, cold and sunny here this morning. We are in the teens, so I am happy to be snuggled up with my little foot heater turned on under my desk.

I had a quiet and peaceful evening with H last night. Brought home pizza and just watched tv. We are supposed to get a lot of snow tomorrow, so we probably will have a quiet evening tonight as well. Sounds good to me.

Hope that all of my friends find strength and calm today.

[1hope]

MT, good morning... You're locked.