No. This is who he has grown into. Hopefully he will grow out of it.
If you can, let it go. It's HIS relationship he is destroying w/kids. Be the example of grace and integrity and give them a role model to look up to. They will. I've seen it happen. My wife did this when it was killing her. She is now reaping the rewards of a wonderful relationship with her daughter.
It's hard but it's worth it. They need you to be the bigger person cause' Dad's in a way bad place in this moment in his life.
V
Kat,
He seems to be transferring a lot of guilt he is feeling about what he is doing to you through the kids. I was this guy in the past. Everything he is doing and saying points to this. Agression is the go-to place to avoid the conviction he is feeling. It's a place of power and avoidance of guilt.
Disarm it by not responding. Guess where it will eventually get transferred to if your not available to battle with?
Don't be his sparring partner. It will go to OW eventually.
V
***Getting up every day and learning to breathe in a new me. For me and my children***
Me: 43 W: 38 SD-15 S(s): 12,9,7 Separated-2/14/2009 My sitch
