My situation #8

[steady]

lol. Bring it on guys. I'll be happy to take a beating. As long as that woman is a warm body send her over...lol.

Yes Mike, proof of no grounds. And yes, I went through them all and selected the ones she gave to me. Some good stuff there.

[Distressed67]

Welcome back Steady,

Mike and I had alot of fun at your expense yesterday and you missed it all. Glad your "out of the closet" so to speak.

[ernest88]

Yes Mike, proof of no grounds. And yes, I went through them all and selected the ones she gave to me. Some good stuff there.

ahh well..sounds like a decision has been made...

things may get worse before/orif they get any better..I'm sure she will be pissed if that's the route your choosing..

And yes, I went through them all and selected the ones she gave to me. Some good stuff there.

you do realize that is a little sick and twisted...right?? I only know one other person, up close and personal, who would use someone's words against them...

As long as that woman is a warm body send her over

warm body...I think this is one warm body you would pass on. she was sharp for sure but had enough baggage for all of us..I think that fru fru dog was a little biter also...

[ndsmhelp]

Man....I missed all the ba!! busting...and I am so good at it, too.

Hey Steady....remember, I am less than an hour away. I could stop in every so often and slap you around for these guys....and send the video.

Seriously...haven't been on much lately and see you haven't been either. Maybe that is a good sign?....not so wrapped up in the sitch? Trying to get your sh*t together?

[steady]

Yes Mike, proof of no grounds. And yes, I went through them all and selected the ones she gave to me. Some good stuff there.

ahh well..sounds like a decision has been made...

Well Mike she's already made her decision. I've given her plenty of opportunity to change course over the last few days...even offered her a trial seperation period. I've also brought up working out our R differences. She wants no part of it.

So now I have to protect myself. And of course, she's not going to like it. It won't go according to her plan. If she turned around today and told me she wanted to reconcile I would do it in a heartbeat.

I don't want to go down this road. But it's her choice, not mine.

things may get worse before/or if they get any better..I'm sure she will be pissed if that's the route your choosing..

They are getting worse. She can't handle not being in control. Although we are still being civil with each other, and actually had a nice conversation the other night she knows I'm digging my heals in and she's starting to not like it.

you do realize that is a little sick and twisted...right?? I only know one other person, up close and personal, who would use someone's words against them...

Mike I absolutely don't want to do this. It's going to make such a big mess between us. But again, I have to protect myself. It's so sad and makes me cry at times. I can't believe I'm even finding myself in this position.

[ernest88]

Well Mike she's already made her decision.

and it sounds as if you have made yours. I'll support you 100% either way..

just remember that you must live with the fallout of the decisions you make.

I've given her plenty of opportunity to change course over the last few days...even offered her a trial separation period. I've also brought up working out our R differences. She wants no part of it.

I have to laugh at that first sentence..it sounds very controlling...like I said..this is all up to her...always has been..

the best peace of advice i ever got here..

do not initiate any D action
do not stall any D action
do not stop any d action

protecting yourself can be as simple as following your L's advice to protect the finances..get good visitation..etc..

stopping a separation/D is not what I would call protecting yourself.

I don't want to go down this road. But it's her choice, not mine.

In reality..it is as much your choice as hers..

It's going to make such a big mess between us.

that is an understatement..

I can't believe I'm even finding myself in this position.

I can't believe your not prepared for it...

all that sounds a little harsh..I know..but you know the drill here..all this was to prepare you for you being ok no matter what..

question is..will you be??

[steady]

Well Mike she's already made her decision.

and it sounds as if you have made yours. I'll support you 100% either way..

just remember that you must live with the fallout of the decisions you make.

Mike I'm not sure what you mean about making up my mind. My W is pushing for a legal seperation and the conditions she wants aren't acceptable to me. The only recourse I have is to contest the D itself. I have made up my mind that I don't want a divorce and have held that position since day 1.

I've given her plenty of opportunity to change course over the last few days...even offered her a trial separation period. I've also brought up working out our R differences. She wants no part of it.

I have to laugh at that first sentence..it sounds very controlling...like I said..this is all up to her...always has been..

the best peace of advice i ever got here..

do not initiate any D action
do not stall any D action
do not stop any d action

protecting yourself can be as simple as following your L's advice to protect the finances..get good visitation..etc..

stopping a separation/D is not what I would call protecting yourself.

I guess that's an attempt at control. I don't know any other way to get past the fact that she won't give me 50/50 custody over the kids. I really don't know what to do Mike. I can always reverse course here too.

I don't want to go down this road. But it's her choice, not mine.

In reality..it is as much your choice as hers..

The D is her choice. How I choose to navigate is my choice.

It's going to make such a big mess between us.

that is an understatement..

I can't believe I'm even finding myself in this position.

I can't believe your not prepared for it...

all that sounds a little harsh..I know..but you know the drill here..all this was to prepare you for you being ok no matter what..

question is..will you be??

I wouldn't say I'm not prepared for it. I'm trying to make the best decisions that I can. The fact is I'm scrambling trying to protect myself and my kids. If I keep putting potential reconciliation into the decisions it doesn't make sense since there's no guarantee that would happen.

[whiskey.tango]

If I keep putting potential reconciliation into the decisions it doesn't make sense since there's no guarantee that would happen.

Please 'splain, I don't understand what you mean here.

WT

[steady]

WT I mean if I think about how I would act during this legal seperation based on a possible reconciling with my W I would be more willing to give her more compromise in the difference between what I want and what she wants.

If I want to play hardball I could contest the D and if I win I'll be in a position to get more favorable conditions.

That's what I mean.

Two days ago she caught me tape recording a conversation we were having, so I think I pretty much put the last nail in the coffin.

[Distressed67]

Two days ago she caught me tape recording a conversation we were having, so I think I pretty much put the last nail in the coffin.

WHY did you do that?????????????