I was supposed to get divorced tomorrow...!

[1853dave]

Yes Sara... She's done well in the past with money (until more recent times), but you are right - the habit doesn't go away, or at least it is hard to break.

I have done recent checks on the credit reports and there is nothing new....her cards did appear, but no new ones. When the time is right, I'll see if she closed the accounts or just paid them off.

I spoke with her this morning, and she sounded good and we had a nice conversation regarding the kids, and what to do Saturday (not my usual day with the girls but D9 has a dance show she's in, so I was invited to take D4 for the day (I offered, and W liked the idea) so she (D4) wouldn't be bored with all of the pre-show rehearsals, etc. I will later take her to the show, so we will all be there as a family. Haven't done that in a long time... W sounded very positive with this idea. Was a good start to my day.

Not bugging her with phone calls, etc. seems to be good. I haven't been doing that anyway, so the very few times I ever call, she's always willing to talk to me. I also pick times when I am pretty sure she's available to talk for a few minutes. We talk about more than just what the plan of the day is, we talk about what each other did yesterday, how her school is going, how is so and so... At least our conversations have been pleasant. So far, so good...