Man, I have to hunt you up all over the place. We're starting a thread just for you so I don't have to troll all over the damn place scrounging you up.
Okay. I didn't really have any material from you to read when I got back, so...let's start at the beginning.
Did you go see your doctor?
Did you find a therapist?
Did you at least buy the book I recommended?
Have you done even 10 sit ups?
Remember, you are on the honor system here.
C'mon, I'm hauling my slightly plump backside to the gym starting Tuesday (my kiddies head back to school then - YES! Love them dearly, don't you know, but, well...YES!)
You and VAnot4lovers must GET OVER fixing your wives. It ain't gonna happen, man, I'm telling you. Love them all you want, but fixing 'em just ain't in the cards. It just doesn't work that way.
I could be wrong, 'cuz Lord knows I have been before, you've got exactly three choices from which to choose.
1) Do nothing and be miserable.
2) Take the next year, starting tomorrow, and completely concentrate your energies on yourself.
3) Get out of your marriage.
Option one you've tried. Fun, isn't it?
Option three is quite the radical move, and it certainly won't be producing good, satisfying, intimate sex with your wife.
Believe it or not, option two has the most potential for you, and it also takes the most work. But I already pounded on you with my thoughts on this one, so I won't repeat myself.
CHANGE THE PATTERN OF YOUR BEHAVIOR WITHIN YOUR MARRIAGE. (Where is that can of Whomp Ass I brought home with me from vacation....)
How long have you been married? When did things go south? How many kids do you have? How old? Why do you not have a lot of time to yourself, not even to read a short book?
Fess up, let's hear it. Talk to me. Not about HER and what she isn't doing...but about you.
