thanks Sandi for your time, wisdom and insights.

We're all good friends and the vacation that she went on with OM, there is also another men there, so I do feel quite safe. She was supposed to take her father but her father did not want to go but she went along with these 2 guys instead.

She has now cut off contact with this guy and our church and fellowship too.
Our kids are S (15) D (13) Twins(S&D) (10)

I'll keep in touch with you, it has been a real roller coaster ride. Appreciate your time. I'm in contact with OM and tend to trust his integrity but I'm concerned about emotional bonds and attachments.