You are right, she does need to be covering her own stuff. Didn't you say she's active duty? Why can't she cover her own deposit?
You could just tell her that you noticed $200 gone from your account. If I were you, *me personally*, I would close the account and open a new one in your name only. Don't forget to go down to finance or online at the AF portal and change your direct deposit account once you have opened the new account. And don't put her on it. You have to protect yourself and your daughter and if she is spending herself into oblivion (which it sounds like) then when she runs out, she is going to turn to your $$.
Okay. (I worked at a bank for awhile, too.) So. 1. Open a new account. It is usually $100 to open a new account. USAA is my personal favorite, but sometimes it's nice to have a local bank, too. 2. Make sure all of *your* stuff (not HER stuff) has cleared. Change the account on your direct deposit. Take most of the money out of acct 1 and put into the new account. Only leave enough to cover what you have outstanding. Consider putting stop payments on check numbers subsequent from the one she wrote for the apartment. 3. You said you haven't been spending much lately, so you may not have anything outstanding. It is totally best scenario if that is true. 4. Get it all moved to the new account in your name only. Close the old account as soon as all the outstanding stuff has cleared. 5. Then let her know what you have done. Tell her that you noticed the $200 coming out for her apartment, that you don't think it was right, and that you have closed that account and opened a new one to which she does not have access to in order to protect yourself and your daughter. Because she did not tell you about the $200 coming out, it caught you off guard, and could have put you in a terrible bind. Etc. You get where I am going.
Take care of yourself. And have a good day!
I took D4 to school today and the lady was trying to decide if she was going to have a good day or not...I said, "Are you pregnant?" She looked at me like I was crazy and said "NO!" I said, "Then it's a good day!!!!"
(((((hugs))))) Melissa
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