Sorry, I didn't mean to invalidate your emotions. Of course your feeling them.

Maybe I'm confused. You said you wouldn't feel so bad if you were in a 'meaningful' relationship and that you are not standing for your M.

Are you hurt because you have not found something meaningful and you think he has or are you hurt because he's not working on your marriage?

If your not standing for you M, then why would it bother you if he refused to work on it?

"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare."
-Mark Twain