you are saying that to see Ugly and no Beauty happens when we take off our rose coloured glasses?
john..maybe using the word Ugly was a little strong..when I say ugly..I don't mean ugly in a mean way..or looking like the wicked witch of the west..I mean I saw no beauty..I don't see her as attractive anymore..her inner beauty is gone...and that goes to her personality, inner strength, character..all that...tha't what I mean when I say ugly...
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Is there no middle ground possible?
I think the middle ground comes when you treat this as a business transaction..you take the emotions out of the equation..
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I was just wondering out loud if two posters feel the same way does it have something to do with both guys being "involved" with some nice ladies.
I don't know the answer to that..I can tell you I've play lots of golf..ate lots of sushi and drank a whole hell of a lot of beer SOLO...maybe it's the raw fish??
Re last comment - Agree with Mike, it's the whole GAL thing I think, we have both bussied ourselves doing stuff including a whole lot of socialising (ok, we drink a bit much !! ), so by doing so you put yourself out there. We've also both got this positive life approach and seem to chat to anybody so we are always meeting new people. Trust me, and I think Mike will agree, we were both shocked when we started getting so much attention and we never expected it to happen. I admit, in some respects it does still feel a little soon, but it wasn't planned and mOT35 seems an awesome girl that is worth the effort. I'd be gutted if it ended now, but I know I will be ok if that happened so don't dwell on it.
I can't spend days/months/years revisting all that simply because I did that after my first failed M..I spent 8 years trying to figure that one out and to be honest it was a cheeseless tunnel..and it almost cost me a R with my son..and to be honest if I attmepted to revisit all that with this failed M..then it might cost me an R with Caleigh and I won't let that happen..
This is the part that I have to read and re-read.
This morning I read about prayer, and listening for what God is trying to say to you. And then I read this. I need to listen.
I know what you mean! My head is killing me right now because of some the mess I've been reading today and then my own crud just keeps getting more annoying too! ARRGGGHH!!!
Chin up, chest out, and smile, smile, smile Mikey!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Then just do it!! I am working hard at following your wonderful example and when you start to sound like you're getting bummed it really 'brings me down man'!
What exactly has been giving you a headache today?
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
), so by doing so you put yourself out there. We've also both got this positive life approach and seem to chat to anybody so we are always meeting new people. Trust me, and I think Mike will agree, we were both shocked when we started getting so much attention and we never expected it to happen. I admit, in some respects it does still feel a little soon, but it wasn't planned and mOT35 seems an awesome girl that is worth the effort. I'd be gutted if it ended now, but I know I will be ok if that happened so don't dwell on it.
I am working hard at following your wonderful example and when you start to sound like you're getting bummed it really 'brings me down man'!