I started dating someone--which was an incredibly affirming and wonderful rebound fling that I do not regret at all--but this guy is not someone I could really have a relationship with, so I ended things with him.
Probably, I would feel better about his new love affair if I had one of my own--but right now, I'm feeling awful--certain that I will never find real love again, certain that H has, quickly and effortlessly. I'm just a mess again--hurt, angry, crying all the time. I had come SO far, had healed so much and now this is just completely taking me down.
I am not standing for my M anymore
Love,
Your feeling all the wrong emotions for all the wrong reasons.
So what if you don't fall in love again? Could you still live with yourself? What makes you think your H is or ever will be in love again?
Men have a different take on relationships. They don't need to find "love" to be OK in a relationship. If they can have a non-judgemental 'friend' with benefits, then that will suffice for the time being. I know it sounds shallow, but that's just how most of us are wired. Some will angrily deny this and rant about how they are different, but they just don't know themselves well enough. This is especially true for the middle aged ones that have been married once or twice already.
His relationship might just be as artificial as your previous one. Only difference is he can live with it and you can't.
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
