Well, today I had a couple of contacts with H, but had no problem staying detached.
I had to call him because I got a voice mail from C that his and S17's sessions this afternoon were cancelled. Actually had S17 make that call. Then took S17 to get evaluation for drug/alcohol but found out I had the time wrong!! So, rescheduled for next Monday. Called my mom to see if she could drive S there that day, then called H to let him know change in status.
During that call H was cordial. Said he might be able to get that time off and take S instead of my mom, which I said I would appreciate and thanked him. He then said that he had a problem with how the dream house was left after we stayed there a couple weeks ago (remember my weekend with me, my brothers, neice, S and S's friend). Anyway, I thought we had cleaned up the place just fine, but H complained that the kitchen floor wasn't mopped, and there was a can with cigarette butts left on the porch......and some other stuff. I didn't rise to the bait or defend. I just said that I had thought I had checked everything, but I obviously missed some stuff and I am sorry and will endeavor to do better next time. I then suggested that we may want to make a checklist or something that we go over each time we are up there before we leave. H liked that idea. I said goodbye first.
H had said that he would e-mail me the bankruptcy papers, but I didn't get them. I did, however, get an e-mail from him telling me to send back the info to him ASAP, and in it he said that the L says that it would be best for us to file H under Ch 13, and me under Ch 7....?? I don't know how we can do this if we are going to file together as married the way I thought.....so, I replied to his e-mail, and left a message on his voice mail requesting clarification. I did both because he has been know to either overlook or not get to his e-mail for quite some time. I am not really worried or anything, because he has not given me reason to believe he would "shaft" me or anything, but I do want to stay informed of course!
Oh, and don't shoot me or anything, but I signed up for a 3 day free trial on a dating web-site. I am not looking to date really!!! If for no other reason than I would not want to hurt anyone by leading them on when I am still not done with my M....not in my heart. What I hope it will do for me is help get me through the next couple days! (i.e. my 26th anniversary!). I can go on there and look, and see that there are lots of "fish in the sea" so to speak, and if somebody sends me an e-mail or something, I will be honest with them about where I am and my feelings. At best I may make a friend. At worst, I've wasted a few minutes of time.
Anyway, it's been fun looking at the postings on that site. There are a lot of funny people out there! But then, I knew that from these boards already!!
Well, my long weekend is over (darnit!).....back to work tomorrow.....
{{{{{{{{{{My DB Friends!!}}}}}}}}}}
TJ
Me45,H49 D24,S18 M26,T28 Bomb 3/19/08 Sep 6/23/08 EA/PA with Secretary 2007-8 3/2009 H moved in w/OW2 7/2009 Let him go w/Love. 8/2009 Legally Sep'd