I am so glad you are getting help for D15. Don't rely on H, he is not himself and don't think he will follow through. MLC takes a long time to overcome and your D cannot wait til her dad is himself because she works through her feelings. You don't want her to suffer anymore than she has to, right? So I am so glad you are on the ball with that.
Keep a list of the things you have to do. Break it all down into small steps. When you have done one, put a big fat checkmark next to it and give yourself a big pat on the back! The only way to eat an elephant is one bite a a time. If you look at the whole elephant, it's very overwhelming. Then say, after you achieve a certain number of things on your list (maybe five or ten), then give yourself a small gift. It can be a real gift or just a gift of time, say one hour of no pressure, problems and just sit and read an interesting book and schedule it on your planner so nothing can touch that hour.
You are doing great protecting your brood and your assets, you are my role model :-)
Me:39 H:40 S:9 D:7 First Bomb ONS:June 07 Second Bomb OW: March 08 Separated: March 08 M:15 yrs T:18 yrs H deep into A with OW Achieved ACCEPTANCE May 30, 09
