Jenn, You know, I really did keep my cool. I just ended up crying my eyes out after the call. It's sort of hard not to. That's why meeting face to face is even worse. Although yesterday when I told him I was going to move, I didn't cry and I kept my cool.
Oh I am sorry I think I misread what you wrote..for some reason I thought you were upset DURING the call not after..my mistake. That is wonderful you were able to keep your cool, I know it is not an easy thing to do!
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He reacts the same to any and all type of interactions with me.
Cold, non caring, and indifferent. Whether I am letting go, begging for forgiveness, asking for another chance, accepting the divorce, giving him what he wants, not fighting his choices, it doesn't matter.
so how is one supposed to gadge how to best move forward if the reactions don't change?
I wish I had some advice on this for you because I am dealing with the same thing! My H is always like that. When he first gave me the bomb and we went to ONE MC session, I was crying my eyes out and he just sat there like it was the most boring day of his life. Even the C said " I don't see any emotion on your face whatsoever no matter what the topic is" I was thinking...wow.....
So I can totally relate to what you are saying here. The only way I have been able to see improvement was by writing down my goals. I was getting very discouraged until I did this. I had simple things like "He will call me 1 time a week to see how my day/week is going" or "he will invite ME to dinner instead of me inviting him" When I was able to check things off my list is only when I started to see SMALL improvement. Small but I couldn't see these things before. I was missing alot of the small signs....
