H has officially filed. Please help me!!!!!

[MomInPain]

If you were a great mind reader and could see the future.. I am fairly confident you would not be posting "here". I used to tell people.. you are about to learn more about your S.. than you ever thought possible. It's true ya know.. and you may not like some of it. Some things will be A'ha moments.

So far what I've learned is......
My H is really good at being cold.
My H is really good at cutting himself off from me emotionally.
My H is very stubborn and hasn't shown any signs of letting up.
My H doesn't want to do anything that isn't good for him.

And no, I don't like any of it. lol

As long as he is in this fantasy world that he is convinced that he is better off divorced, that is where we will end up. Unfortunately the OW that doesn't exist is getting in the way of any positive changes I make. I'm pretty sure that is a fact.

ok, it is natural for us to backpedal and loose our temper from time to time, so do not beat yourself up about it.

Jenn, You know, I really did keep my cool. I just ended up crying my eyes out after the call. It's sort of hard not to. That's why meeting face to face is even worse. Although yesterday when I told him I was going to move, I didn't cry and I kept my cool.

I'm always just looking for some little hint that I'm getting through. It's just not there.

I'll keep plugging along with the GAL, moving us into a new place, PMA, and whatever else I have to do.

The funny thing is, and I'd love any opinions on this....

He reacts the same to any and all type of interactions with me.

Cold, non caring, and indifferent. Whether I am letting go, begging for forgiveness, asking for another chance, accepting the divorce, giving him what he wants, not fighting his choices, it doesn't matter.

so how is one supposed to gadge how to best move forward if the reactions don't change?

IDK? I guess that's why I'm here.