I thought the "out there" part had already been established.
Now, other than letting her pistol whip you whenever she feels like it, how should she "know" that you are "standing" for the restoration of your marriage?
Trapt, answer my question above, please.
What have YOU done to MAKE SURE she knows what you want?
How have you used what you have learned here, other than the GAL part, to benefit your sitch?
Amy back in Oct. things were going very well. We did talk some and I told her then after she told me she was sorry and she wanted things to work out. Then back to la la land she went. I have also been there for her whenever she has asked me to be.
I'll be back in a half hour or so. I'm sorry I have to go. I respect everyone's opinion, but I don't believe there is too much that can be said to make this feeling go away.
If you're not going to bother reading my post, and knee jerk react to misinterpreting it, I can only imagine how well any face-to-face interaction/confrontation will go today...
Count to at least 10 before any repsonses in the real world Aaron.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
Amy back in Oct. things were going very well. We did talk some and I told her then after she told me she was sorry and she wanted things to work out. Then back to la la land she went. I have also been there for her whenever she has asked me to be. So stop doing that and tell her you want a divorce...... or...... get back into your corner and hush......... but don't make this decision based on a twitch in your pants from meeting a new hot chick. Todays posts and that meeting are connected. Don't BS yourself about that, trapt.
but don't make this decision based on a twitch in your pants when you met a new hot chick. Todays posts and that meeting are connected. Don't BS yourself about that, trapt.
You are so f-ing cool Amy! Sincerely and honest. F-ing cool!
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
Please .....I'm not saying I'm going to call her up and go on the offensive and tell her to "fark off I'm done." "I Hate You."
What sense would that make? She filed she is pushing this.
That is not the point I'm trying to make.
What I'm saying is this. When she has questioned herself about her anger toward me on more than one occasion, why then should I let it slide the next day when she spews?
If she complains about what I say or don't say or do or don't do when it comes to our children. Why listen to that garbage? She left, she found another man. She knows this is BS.
If she doesn't help me with bills on her week. Why the hell should I give her money when its my week?
She would not let me see my son on his Birthday when she didn't have plans, but yet she expects me to switch 10 days in the month of March to fit her schedule. Mind you, I agreed to the custody agreement SHE put forth and she wants to change it all the time.
I strongly feel I need to put a stop to this crap. I'm not boo hooing about it, I've lived it for a long time and I'm not going to go all out and lay waste to her. That's not what I mean. I'm talking about standing up for myself and not letting this crap slide anymore.
This may be a bad analogy, but if she were a crackhead and kept saying "gee I don't know why my teeth are falling out?" or "man where is all my money." " I don't know why I feel like sh*t all the time." "Can I have ten bucks Trapt?"
All I'm saying is I'm not giving her ten bucks anymore. Don't admit to me you have a problem and then continue on with the destruction.
