Had a crazy busy weekend so didn't get a chance to log into to DB. Just to clary some of the advice/points people brought up:
Startingover, thanks for your comments. But I can assure you that I am not using sex to bring my H back. Far from it. I think H and I had a good sex life so I know that sex isn't the issue why we're not together. If sex was all it took we would be happy as can be. But I know that's not it.
To be honest, I was kind of troubled by the advice that I should "save myself". I might be wrong but I thought this site and Michele's goal is to help people trying to save their marriage if possible. I have tons of people out there who gladly advice to move on forget about my M, but I looked here for people who were experiencing the same issues. And just to be practical, I think our WAS's mental state they all have "no respect" for us b/c if they did, an A would not have even happened. So, I was kind of pulled back by this advice. Don't get me wrong, I'm not asking for anyone to sugar coat things but I thought we were all here trying to give advice, endure the madness of our spouse, and possible save our M with PMA.
Puppy, you asked if my goal is to be friends or save my maariage. And I think its both, of course I want to save my marriage. I wouldn't even bother with DBing if I didn't want my marriage. I'm not really sure how being friends and saving my marriage is two different things though. I'm not trying to be H's best of friend right now where we talk every day, but when we do talk I want to have good conversations with him. Is that not what I should be doing, w/o the ML part.
Anyhow, with that said, I truly do think I need to exercise some self control. Believe me, I am try very hard to not pursue my H and to GAL and live my life.
