Hey, sure am sorry you are going through this. Just read your two threads. Wow...
I'd advise you to NOT read or even think about the "whys" of an affair. You simply do not need anymore information rattling around upstairs right now, definitely not about stuff that is in the past or that you can do nothing about. You just keep on "manning up" like you have been and consume yourself with being "Super Dad". Throw in some R&R time for yourself when you can. The less you think about her right now the better.
