WAW - Very confused and devestated - pt 2

[confusedinpa]

AnotherNightmare,

Glad to hear your retrouvaille weekend went well. Can't wait to hear the details.

Ironically, my wife sees that she's turned me into a different person that has neglected her over the years. Unfortunately, she just doesn't know how to get past all the past hurt/pain. Sounds like your wife had made the leap. Did retrouvaille help her feel optimistic about love again or did she have it before the weekend? Just curious how it happened.

One other thing: women want to be wanted. They do not want to be needed. They are needed by their children. They do not want their H to be another child. Ask yourself if you want her for who she is, or if you need her because she meets some of your needs.

AN

That's a good reminder why needy is unattractive. I think I've been feeling needy but over the last few weeks, I've found that I've been doing more of my own laundry (as well as the kids and towels). Not sure if she's doing it intentionally as in the past she had expressed she felt like she was just a housekeeper or if she's just so preoccupied with the situation that she's just hasnt really kept an eye on it.

Something I need to stay focused on, showing her that I want her for her, not need her to take care of me. That's going to be a tough one for me to figure out/balance.