Thank you both for your input. I am hoping this week brings things further in one direction or another with our session with our C.
I know it is premature to push this particular "friendship" issue - especially since we are separated. Right now anything is ahead of our marriage as he has not decided whether or not to work on it. Our marriage means very little to him - as it should for someone who asked for a divorce.
We are seeing a C to determine whether or not to stay married - not to put things back together.
Perhaps after this past month of me being me again he will have some inkling one way or another. To me it feels/looks like things have cooled at the store.
And for the near future this other person is going no where since she is a coworker and now "best friends" with my h's sister. My h also responds extremely negatively to any attempt to "control" him.
- And I read my own stuff and I look like an idiot when it is in black and white.
I really see my only options are to get enough closeness back to assert some boundries if he chooses to work on things, or I move ahead with the divorce.
I imagine especially as a guy it is a tough spot to be in, you want to be supportive and not contolling, yet need to look strong by standing your ground. That would probably go for me too.
I hope to have answers soon. Whatever happens I am happy to not be so sick anymore and be on this side of the dirt.
