1. Blood is thicker than water. Period. You can't really use her family to shame her or econonmically starve her into going back to you. Revealing your legal game plan to them is foolhardy.
2. She's in a fog now. You can't scare her into coming back.
3. She drew first blood and made it a legal custody battle.
4. It's hard to DB WHILE you are fighting for custody.
5. Stop trying to use the affair to leverage her family against her and try to make her come back to you. You either DB OR you fight.
Here are my thoughs:
1. Stop talking to her family.
2a. Use the affair as legal leverage to get shared custody from her if that's what you want.
OR
2b. Get total custody and fight for your daughter.
3. Worry about saving the marriage AFTER the custody is decided.
