SRTTF is right. WTF?! She can't order you to do anything. You are the man in the house and are protecting your family like a lion to his pride.
When she confronted you, you should have calmly told her what you were doing and tell her to explain herself. Put her on the spot for a change.
And if you think for a minute that the OM was serious about continuing the A because of his W, you are badly mistaken. Your W is saying she doesn't give a damn about you and is going to go mess around whether you like it or not...la la la.
Get your self-respect back from her and turn things around in your court. I would have told the other man to back off, then told his W. She deserves to know what kind of scumbag her husband is. What do you think it's going to do to your W? Piss her off? She's already flaunting herself in front of you and telling you what you can and can't do.
Take control of your life for yourself and your kids. Ignore your W and don't give her the time of day. It sounds like your W is so insecure with herself that she needs the attention of others to show her how great she is.
All the sex stuff about how great it is, is all in her head. If she had the same emotional mindset towards you like she had with the other guy, you'd have mindblowing sex too. For women it's all about emotions. If they let you push the right buttons, they'll be happy.
She's acting like a spoiled brat right now. And sometimes spoiled brats need to be spanked (not physically of course). Draw your boundary with her. Tell her you will not be disrespected any more by her and end communication. Concentrate and love your kids.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
