I think the DB coaches are amzing, but to tell you to LRT...
Last Resort Technique.
It is too soon and you are not capbale or ready for it, and if you are neither capable or ready for LRT then...it is like an unloaded weapon...an empty threat.
LRT means you can and are able to walk away from your spouse if they are unwilling to come back and live by your boundaries. Can you do that?
No. Not yet.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK