How did you manage your emotions while you were going through this with your W?
I didn't very well. If you read my old threads, I was all over the map emotionally. Got on ADs, which helped a lot, and eventually got the hang of it. I tried real hard to shoot for "loving detachment," but when I saw the intel (like you are now), I had a hard time with the "loving" part, and when I DIDN'T see/hear it, and she'd throw me a bone, I was so craved for some love that it was hard to stay detached and not go all "needy/grabby" on her or "melty-man."
Mostly, PRAYER helped me. Started each day with Psalms and Proverbs, and I was forever amazed that I would usually seem to be fed whatever it was I need to hear for THAT day.
