I am sorry that you are having such a terrible time with things right now.
I am not here to give you a 2X4 because by your own admission you are having a pity party of your own
I will tell you however that every single one of us here did have somethng to contribute to the demise of our Marriages.
None of us are perfect, and in hindsight there was a lot more we could have done to help keep our Marriages intact.
With that in mind, I will also tell you that IF your Spouse is indeed in MLC then there probably wasn't too much any of us could have done to avoid the MLC from happening.
Dawn, the reason we are told to work on ourselves and to make changes is because we have to make ourselves into better people, regardless of the outcome of the Marriage.
We are here to save ourselves, and if we can help to save the Marriage, then that is a bonus.
We can't make our Spouse come back, or change their minds. The only person we can control is ourselves.
Try to take the focus off of your Husband, and the OW, and keep the focus on yourself. Work on your own issues, do things that make you happy.
(((((hugs)))))
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
