WAW - Very confused and devestated - pt 2

[confusedinpa]

I'm really starting to get anxious - seems like lunch time when things slows down at work - it's the worst. I really want to call her, just to chat and hear or voice, but know that's wrong. She did send me an email this morning suggesting a movie we could see with our kids this Sat. I waited about 30 minutes to respond with a light email laughing about the movie.

It's so hard as I am really confused as to how do we get beyond roommates as friends. She says she can't see beyond the person who hurt her so badly over the years. I don't know if she's still trying to. I wished our counselor would talk to her about but she never brings it up. I'm tempted at times to bring it up, but don't want to make her defensive.

I had thought about treating this like we were just starting to date, but it's hard as we were intimate on the second date (which was the day after we met). It would have been the day we met if it wasn't a bad time of the month for her.

I know I need to take it slow to give her time to get used to or rediscover the me that is not clouded by the depression (I don't think I'll ever get used to saying that).

I had tried to suggest taking a couple of days away from it all with just the 2 of us. Of course I did that on Thurs when I totally pissed her off by asking about a "innocent remark" a guy had posted on her facebook wall. Yes, my timing is that good. Perhaps I should bring it up again.

So how do we move past this limbo we're in? Or am I doomed?