Aud and Matilda, My W said that she doesn't want to pursue any more conversations with me for now (probably a good idea, the timing seems to be wrong). She told me that I have problems with defensiveness and communication.
Going to IC gives me a vehicle to discuss my issues with her and show that I'm working on them. As DB suggests, any changes in the system will likely influence the partner, so I'm not going to worry about the lack of partnership, for now.
I told her that I've ordered a book by Leo Buscaglia on Loving Each Other: The Challenge of Human Relationships from the library. I agreed that I am defensive and need to work on communication and intimacy. I told her that the goal of IC is to develop relationship skills including communication, conflict management, and intimacy (all true).
She's approaching the IC like our R, from a distance while keeping an eye on me.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
