Hey Mike, can't imagine what you learned from me....but thanks for the complimnet. I guess we all take a little something from each other's situations. I now peak in on you occasionally to see how "real" detaching is done.
well I learned that I should have left when you told me to leave..
Oh I've forgiven Kim..I hold no ill will towards her..I only wish her the best and happiness galore...if that happens then I know my daughter will be taken care of..
I still consider to be friends with her as far as things with Caleigh go...we have very civil talks John..all about Caleigh..I have no desire to listen or validate Kim's personal stuff because in reality we are not married and it's no longer my problem or any of my business..If Kim interjects personal stuff in then I tell her it's none of my concern. If she brings drama from our M/R in then I let her know all that no longer matters to me as I have moved on..I refuse to rehash the crap...I dealt with all that in MC/IC and with all you lucky folks If she has demons..then go see a professional..
I can't spend days/months/years revisting all that simply because I did that after my first failed M..I spent 8 years trying to figure that one out and to be honest it was a cheeseless tunnel..and it almost cost me a R with my son..and to be honest if I attmepted to revisit all that with this failed M..then it might cost me an R with Caleigh and I won't let that happen..
Well Mike...you are a better detacher than I am. Once in a while, I still validate.... although I know that it is none of my business. I guess I validate like a friend. But that too will eventually fade away...
I think I should spend some time with newcomers...I am at a place now where I am no longer angry and I can look back with very little emotion.
hmm....maybe I should stay away for a few more months.....by then, the golf season will be in full swing....that will make it easier to get less depressed!
hmm....maybe I should stay away for a few more months.....by then, the golf season will be in full swing....that will make it easier to get less depressed!
they need all the help they can get just as we did..I'm just saying...if you remember back...it's all the same...with the exception that the Noobs now..don't seem to hang in as long as we did..and they just keep coming..it's never ending.
they need all the help they can get just as we did..I'm just saying...if you remember back...it's all the same...with the exception that the Noobs now..don't seem to hang in as long as we did..and they just keep coming..it's never ending.
I am guessing I don't count as a newbie, then, since my butt is still hanging in.
Blessings, grace, and dignity~ SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
I am guessing I don't count as a newbie, then, since my butt is still hanging in.
Laura..no..I don't consider you that at all..and have not for quite some time. You're appraching a year..I figure you stay where you are just for the fact that you don't quite have another place to go...I mean..you don't fit separated, surviving...MLC, infidelity or any of that..
I figure you're the Newbie Gatekeeper.. LOL
I read along by the way..I see you don't post much anymore on yours..simply because there does not appear to be much happening with DH and the stich..
I wouldn't know where to move to, anyway. Infidelity maybe, but who knows what is going on with that circumstance, so I will stay put for now. I have thought that maybe MLC, but to be honest, that forum scares me a bit, as some situations seem so hopeless and drawn out.
Yeah, it has been a year since the bomb, almost a year since i first posted. I started my own thread right around Mother's day last year. Funny, I never thought I would be here this long. The eternal optimist in me thought for sure he would be back before cruise. OF course, those thoughts went out the door round about the end of MC.
No, there really isn't anything to talk about lately. I did update a bit on me and the kids today. Right now, I guess we are in a holding pattern. We will see what happens in the next couple of months. There is not a ton of time left to the end of deployment--unless the Navy changes its mind and extends the deployment.
The Gatekeeper, huh? Well, I have definitely been thought of as worse.
Bri and I talked a few months ago about how we were both in the same position--his W has a lease and DH is on deployment. Neither one of them has to make a decision right now, so they won't. That could all change later, but for now, it is what it is.
Blessings, dignity, and grace~ SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
The great boxer Roberto Duran was all over the scales too. Between fights he would balloon up to over 200, but still be able to get back down to welterweight (147). Maybe Kim is just between fights right now.
holy chittt..that may be the funniest thing ever on one of my threads..
If she has demons..then go see a professional..