You guys. My W is confusing me! The biggest problem she suffers is not the OM, it is her fear of facing anything that presents any pressure on her. She likes him because He has nothing to loose so he puts no pressure on her.
Bariga, I'm confused. Since you came here, you've gone from saying she's having an affair, to saying the affair is over and they're just friends, to saying she's in love with OM, to saying she LIKES him, but he's not the biggest problem.
Now, I normally like to operate from the position of "OM/OW is NOT the biggest problem in the marriage, but they ARE the immediate obstacle," but what, exactly, IS her relationship with him????
THIS is why I'm so much in favor of good intel. We're trying to help you, but we're shooting at a moving target here . . .
