That sounds a little drastic to me...probably because I am not there. Probably because I have not been lucky to find someone to replace XW. I think that has alot to do with "final" detachment.
Well to be brutally honest..Kim weighed about 135# when we met and fell in love...when we got married she weighed 106#..she now weighs at least 190# if not more....so I saw no beauty...the way she has acted through this killed any inner beauty she had that I saw...I've said for a whikle now that I thought the only reason we ever were brought together was for Kim to become a mom and for me to have a second chnace at being a daddy..
Maybe all this was God's way/will of waking my negative, sorry asss up..
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Probably because I have not been lucky to find someone to replace XW.
my dating/relationship goal has not been to find a replacement per say....but to make me better....but to find better..to not settle...
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I think that has alot to do with "final" detachment.
it can be referred to as what people want to call it...
I've let all this go John...I harbor no thoughts of what could have been, why, how, what happened...any thoughts of a future with Kim are gone long ago..
I look at her and know that we where together for 9 years...the first 7 were good..the last 2 sucked floppy donkey peckers...we have a beautiful daughter from that union..Kim has her dream home...good things came from that...and that's what that was..
it was no more..no less..
I can't continue to come here and wonder why..I know the why..Kim quit..she walked away..she ran when it got tough..
it is what it is..
personally it amazes me that some here can continue to choose to love to love their ex's...especially with some of the things these WAS's do..maybe with some more growth I'll figure that out one day..
all that this how I feel...it's just the way it is..I look at her and see a blank sheet of paper..no color, no pretty...no beauty..no nothing..it's just not there..and it really doesn't bother me or put me into a funk because it's not there..
