You guys. My W is confusing me! The biggest problem she suffers is not the OM, it is her fear of facing anything that presents any pressure on her. She likes him because He has nothing to loose so he puts no pressure on her.
She came home the other day and looked at me and balled her eyes out and told me that she is sorry for all the times she hurt me and that she felt bad because I am such a good man and blah blah blah. She went to get her stuff from OM's apartment but she ended up sleeping on the OM's couch the night before (No Sex) I just held her and listened to her and told her it's okay, it's just that I love her and If I want her to forgive me my mistakes, I am willing to over look hers as well.
This happened but then it did not lead to any promise to stop or to work on saving our marriage. It led to her telling me that she is going to take a job far away and leave us both.
After all of that she asked me to sleep in our bed last night, not for sex but just because it is more comfortable than the couch. She kissed my head when she thought I was asleep.
I can't get her to trust that I can be that responsible loving husband that she wants me to be. SHE TELLS ME SHE WANTS ME TO BE HER HUSBAND. But she won't take the chance with me because she says that she has seen me TRY for years but I never follow through.
She is so miserable about this. She wants to be my wife but she can't face the distress.
I decided that where I live, I can't find a job that will support me or a family. I wrote her a note that said I will leave in 2 months and if I have no commitment from her by then I will sever all ties with her.
Someone help us what choice is there, what can I do or say?
