I can't say anything else other than what everyone else has said.
Here are some oberservations:
1. Your husband hasn't changed. He's still a grumpy bully who wants a spotless house, a warm meal waiting for him, invisible quiet, children and a horny wife who asks him no questions. And when any of these things isn't provided, he get s ornery and runs for "comfort" in the arms of another woman.
2. He still is involved with OW. As long as he is in contact with her at all, he's still involved and you'll never trust him.
3. You fear setting a boundary or making any demands on him. You state how upset you are, but you draw no hard lines. I know this is tough. We all are captive to our fears. But in the end, we KNOW it's gptten us nowhere.
4. That nice SUV he gave you doesn't even begin to pay for the fiancial support he's withdrawn since he's moved out. He hasn't shared the profits of the business with you (and you are 49% owner). He hasn't shared his bank account with you.
I think it's time you set a boundary. Put it in writing and set an ultimatum. Give him a chance to change.
Much love to you. You are an intelligent, sweet, beautiful woman.
