John, I don't think it is required to find someone else before reaching this point. However we can clear our heads and start looking at things objectively, or without the lenses of "rose colored glasses", is how it is done. For some, it might happen when we find someone else. For others, it can happen before. It really happens when we start being honest with ourselves.
You can get there without finding someone first if you want to... Just takes a conserted effort.
