I have a pretty busy week ahead. I'm looking forward to visiting with my lawyer, I need some advice on a few different issues. I have a ton of stuff to do around the house too.
I'm not sure on how to approach this, but my wife still has some of her things at home. I don't want to start anything but I want them out of here.
I plan on laying a bit low this coming weekend. I went out last Friday and had a blast. I met an absolutely beautiful young woman who I had seen before. We spoke a little back in August, just small talk. She sat down beside me and we had a pretty nice conversation. She wants me to come see her where she works. It's tempting but I know I can't and putting myself in that situation is not doing me any good.
Trapt, Hey Bro Keep that chin up! As for the temptations don't fall for em. Stand for your marriage and your kids. Be cool
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Your right, I have plenty of other things to focus on right now. I do enjoy the company and miss the companionship but it's not right to take it any further.
I'm not sure on how to approach this, but my wife still has some of her things at home. I don't want to start anything but I want them out of here.
This is a tricky situation. You don't want to upset her by making her think you don't want any of her stuff around but you don't want to have to look at it either. Too many memories. You can always pack it up nicely and tell her you got her stuff together so she could take it with her in case there was anything she may need. Anyway you deal with this it is more than likely going to be a blow to her. Good luck!
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I met an absolutely beautiful young woman who I had seen before. We spoke a little back in August, just small talk. She sat down beside me and we had a pretty nice conversation. She wants me to come see her where she works. It's tempting but I know I can't and putting myself in that situation is not doing me any good.
Just be up front with her. Having a female friend is ok as long as you don't let temptation win and cross the line. You don't need more to confuse you. Been there...done that, it doesn't make life any easier. Sometimes having a friend (as long as that is all she is) from the opposite sex is nice.
Since you all talked, does she know you are married? Sorry to ask but most men tend to leave that little bit of information out.
You know what...better get advice from someone else, I am anti-marriage right now. It is all about me, me, me and no one else so I may give the wrong advice. Sorry for wasting your time here.
That is my concern, part of me says, hey if you say your done, take your stuff. I'm sure that isn't going to help. It will probably be better to just pack it away in the basement I guess.
No she doesn't know that I'm still married. Our conversation never really went in the relationship direction and I didn't want to say something out of the blue, like ok "time out" or "first things first". She did throw out the invite to pay her a visit but I don't plan on it. If I see her again and she asks, that will be the time I will say something.
Pack it and put it in the basement. It is out of your way and if she ever asks about it, you can just bring it up to her. Problem solved.
I disagree with how you handled the girl situation. You should have jumped in there and said you were married. You could have told her you were separated. That isn't fair to not tell, it is like you are leading her on and then next time...BAM...a slap in the face to her. Always be upfront.
Let me ask you this...what if you were single and met a woman and had a really good conversation with her, never discussed relationship and then said goodbye. All week you think about this woman and can't wait to get to the bar (or wherever) to see her again. You show up (wherever) and there she is. Then she tells you that she is married. How would you feel?
Oh God, I feel like an old hag trying to teach her son right from wrong. You do what you want. It is your life. You do what you feel is right and what YOU want to do.
Sometimes you can't keep living on borrowed dreams. I'm sure others will say you need to stay away from the women and work on your marriage but you know what, I'm at the point in my life that says to hell with everything else...go out and have a good time. A person can only sit and wait for so long. You are the only one who can decide how long to wait but don't waste years waiting like I did unless you feel there is a chance.
I could say more but I don't want to write a book and besides, I'm sure I have said enough to make many people angry on here. (not my intentions at all though)
I disagree with how you handled the girl situation. You should have jumped in there and said you were married.
Yeah, thats my problem, how do you go about this without sounding like a dork. Better to just avoid it. I doubt she will be thinking about me all week.
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Oh God, I feel like an old hag trying to teach her son right from wrong.
You Rock Ma!!
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Sometimes you can't keep living on borrowed dreams. I'm sure others will say you need to stay away from the women and work on your marriage
I can't work on my marriage while she is orbiting the planet venus. I need to work on finding a cold weather hobby. I'm in the prime of my life and I feel like I'm 70.
Thats why I'm avoiding it all together. I'm not looking for anything like that. I've got enough to deal with. It's just nice to know that I'm not dead yet.
