Did she have a gun to your head or something? What do you mean she made you delete them and recant the e-mail to OM. You are still married and there is no law about seeing her e-mail. You have every right to do what you did.
Get those e-mails printed on hard copy and tell the OM to stop all contact for God's sake. God gave you a sign to do something with so do it....
Sorry for the 2x4 but you are still letting her controll you. TAKE CONTROLL KEVIN.....
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