H just moved out, 13 months post-bomb

[AliSuddenly]

Hey Dawn....

Hmm... I'm guessing he quit his is job in a hurry, or didnt go in very much (cos of moving to be nearer to OW), so lost his job.

I personally think you have been DARK for long enough and it wouldnt do any harm to send him a short, neutral email, letting him know that you have quite a bit of post for him and also a delivery arrived which appears to be from his place of work (dont explain how you know that, details are not important and he will only assume the delivery note was on it or something).

This is the advice Jody the DB coach gave me when my ex started seeing Helen and wasnt in touch for as long as your H hasnt been and post was building up.

Email him (is that something you could do? Better than texting as you make its less intrusive). Let him know you have post for him... and then dont offer solutions/ask where he is, just say "so let me know how you would like me to get that to you"... then say something friendly but innocuous, like, hope you are well, Dawn.

You have the perfect excuse to make contact with him, in a neutral, non-threatening way and you really ought to let him know that you have post for him.

Go on Dawn, dont be a scaredy cat.. think of him as a friend now who had moved out, what would yuo do if an ex-flatmate had post piling up? Dont be afraid of his 'reaction' or 'non-reaction' just let him know in a friendly and neutral manner that you have stuff for him.

Glad to hear you sounding stronger, keep postoing to us! And have you been out with anyone for a drink or anything lately? I had to really push myself 6 momths ago to do that stuff, but its paid off in the end.

Al xxx