Hope your date goes well tomorrow, keep in touch !
My 'date' still sent a few TM's ....weird thing is, I hardly know this guy, but feel a huge connection in those TM's...(sounds desperate to me...)He's kind and funny and makes me feel excited and happy.
Is this what our MLC'ers went through...? I have noticed that I haven't thought of H quite as much today...as my interest has been tickled by this guy...
Yikes, I hope I will not become an MLCer !!!
Take care xxx and have FUN !
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
Cinders, Yes, the feelings you had about the TMs are exactly how it starts out. It's the feeling of being wanted and someone is interested in you. Enjoy those feelings and have some fun along the way. You, by no means, are having a mlc!
Ladies, enjoy your day!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thank you for your wishes. I had quite a good time with "my first date". He seems to be a nice person but of course at this stage I can only see him as a good friend and nothing more. At least he seems to be an honest and genuine guy and I didn't have the feeling that he has something to hide. The other men I met wanted to know so much about me already in the first few hours which I found very suspicious. However, this guy seems to be a bit shy since he told me that he never goes out on his own but always with some of his mates. When he asked me if I went on my own I said that I could sit at home most of the time if I didn't go out on my own.
Anyway, we had a good laugh and of course I could not get by without making a few jokes, e.g. he drives a small red sports car and when I saw it I asked him whether it was a "midlife crisis car"! He has never heard the expression and I had to explain to him that most men in MLC buy a sports car.
Saturday was a beautiful but quite chilly day. I met the guy in a nearby cute little town in the afternoon, and we went for a nice walk along the river before we went for afternoon tea. Unfortunately, the restaurant we went to was not in the sun. Normally, we would have gone to one of the restaurants on the waterfront which is facing south but they are still shut as the season hasn't started yet. The place is very popular with tourists from spring till fall and obviously on lovely winter days. I was amazed that it was full of people also going for walks.
Re H I mentioned before that he wrote about women wanting to be supported where he is. So I told him about what happened to a GF's son who married somebody from the part of the world where H seems to be. The guy ended up supporting his wife's family and relatives. In the end he had no money anymore and had to start working really hard again. My H was not "amused" by my story and replied that he does not need me telling him this. He knows about it and he is not stupid!!!
He started telling me again that he has to give me a certain amount from the property sale as part of the divorce settlement although he made a huge loss on it. But obviously I don't care about him and why should I, after all he left me! – I got this accusing mail instead of a Valentine's card.
I have not replied and am going dark. The business matter will be settled and the D final soon, and then I will not contact H very often anymore.
True, I'm so happy to see your first date went well. He does sound shy, etc., but you know what? That's okay. At least he wasn't asking you hundreds of questions and you both could enjoy yourselves.
True, please pass me the tissues. I'm sobbing of your h's loss on the property and the fact that he's still whining about paying you your share. Oh, my, the man doth protest too much about it. Of course you don't care about him....after all you are entitled to your share of the money and in his eyes if you cared about him you would give it all to him. Nada! I wouldn't fall for that crap any longer. The manipulating mind games he's played w/you in the past aren't working now.
True, I know you love him, but you are right...everything will be settled shortly and then you'll have no reason to contact him unless you want to. I'm glad you are looking out for yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Good for you TL. Yeah what is there to respond too. I remember my h when we first met he drove a sports car. He was 26 at the time. Maybe that was a sign back then. No sports cars for him now just a whole heep of depression and crisis mode.
The date sounded awesome! Good for you!
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
Glad to hear your date went well ! I was Sooooooooooooo curious !!!
I can't remember how you said you had met ?! Anyway, sounds better than my first encounter with a man ! hahaha !
I have been thinking that joining a dating site is NOT for me ! Soooooo please tell me what you think of THIS idea ...
I want to send all my friends an email saying that I am ready to slowly start exploring the waters and see what fish swim in there, and that since I'm not the type to join a dating site and don't go out to bars either, if they can all keep an eye out for a warm, friendly and trustworthy friend they may have, who is single and may seem like a good dat for me....
what do you think ?
Take care xxx
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
Thank you for popping in and your posts. They are much appreciated. Snodderly, I prepared a box of tissues for you - LOL.
I wrote in my last post that I saw "my first date" on Saturday. Well, it was SUNDAY, of course. I didn't hear from him anymore and on Monday evening I sent him a Thank You note and that I enjoyed the afternoon.
Yesterday I received an answer that he also enjoyed the afternoon and time went by really quickly. That he was thinking it over and his gut feeling told him that we are not compatible. That it has nothing to do with me since I am a nice person. He wishes me luck. I will surely find my dream man soon.
Actually, I am quite relieved that he was honest to me since I felt the same. I had the feeling that he felt inadequate. He made a few remarks during the conversation which gave me that impression. I thought I might just let him know that he is welcome to join me going to some events if he feels like it, and that we could get to know each other as friends. But I guess him being a man will not want to waste his time with a woman only for friendship. He is looking for a partner.
Well, I am already wiring to somebody else who might be more compatible. At least he does sailing but maybe he is too sporty and active for me. We will see. I am only at the stage of writing e-mails.
I must say that writing to these people has become no problem to me since I have been on this BB for so long and am used to "talking to strangers". But meeting them is a totally different experience.
It is a wonderful day today, but incredibly cold. Yesterday it got all mushy and today it is icy. I might go to the theatre this evening but I will go for a nice walk in the sun this afternoon for sure although it is freezing.
Thank you for your encouragement. I am not so sure about finding my future love of my life. Can it happen that you get the love of your life twice? - Well, we shall see.
Anyway, the play was not very good and I went home in the interval. On the way home I noticed that the temperature dropped to very much below freezing. We have not had such a cold February since 1987 I think.
I was looking up my old threads on the archive and I noticed how many names have been here for so long. I could not believe that so many of us are still posting.
Well last night I got caught in like a million Text messages with the guy I told you about...at the time it felt very flattering, but this morning, I woke up to find yet another TM and realized this is heading for a crash ! I should have stopped it when Snodderly told me to. It's totally addictive and like you said, I've become so good at knowing exactly what to say...yikes !
Today I plan not to text with him. All this stuff got me thinking a 'one night stand' would be good for me, as I am totally not the type...but like I said, I'm really not the type.
It's like you said,...can you find the love of your life twice ? I was in love for 19 years...some people don't even have that !! I should be thankful !
Oh well, I'm babbling, I think you handled your situation very well, much better than the web I'm creating...poor guy, I feel sorry for him, I played with his emotions.
thanks for 'listening' ...take care xxx
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
