W and I talked some about telling them tonight. I think we are on the same page. And both intimidated by it. She is worried that because she is moving out she will get the blame from them. I told her I would do what I could to prevent that. I imagine she will get plenty of blame from them no matter what I do, but that is NOT what I want.
She is thinking of getting a nice TV for her new place, though it might live here for a while first. She wants to get it after we tell the kids. On the one hand it feels like buying them off, on the other, I think it is showing them that they will be comfortable in both homes.
We talked more about money, she has started to crunch numbers, and squeeze a bit. I think that it still works, there are a couple of advantages that she is leaving me with (hopefully the house will actually rebound), that I will use to offset trying to make sure she has what she needs. Especially since setting up her house really comes down to setting up a place for the kids. If that cost me some extra money now, it is worth it in the long run, in my opinion. As long as I don't hamstring myself, it is ok.
She was looking online at more houses today, I even looked with her for a while. It's a bit weird, but....
I need to try to get conclusive answers to the question of whether she is going to have trouble getting her mortgage. I don't see how she can, but she needs to be convinced that it will work. She's afraid that someone selling mortgages will say, no problem (to get the nice refi) and then forget they ever said it when it comes to her's. I think that the trick to make sure might be to do the refi now, and her mortgage after we have filed. I need to talk to a lawyer....
Hey.... I know an almost lawyer..... Michelle!!!!!!
