H has officially filed. Please help me!!!!!

[MomInPain]

Wow girl, it sounds like it was a big day for you. Are you doing ok?

Jenn, Yes! I'm actually doing really well. It was nice to see the look of surprise and worry on H's face. He really is screwed if he has to live here and pay me cs and ss. He is freaking out!
I'm going to let him sweat it out for a few days but he knows that I plan to be moving by the end of the month. We may have to do a 2 bd for a little while but my kiddos are fine with that.

There are a couple of things that I'm working on such as him having the kids more than every other week, and getting visitation for our cats. lol

....I want so much to pick up the phone and say - It's my turn to move out, you need to come back, pay the bills, take care of the dogs, and fix the house so it can be sold. It would turn his world upside down!

Bravo for taking a stand for yourself and your children. Keep us posted and hang in there.

Thank you Silver, it really does feel good. I wouldn't have done it if I didn't think it was for the best. But at the same time there is a small part of me that will miss this piece of crap house. lol

Hope your H is not holding his breath on the Custody and Spousal support being a given. Get a good attorney--ask for references, as I am sure there are people you know who can make some. Check this out:

http://www.wsba.org/media/publications/pamphlets/Dissolution.htm

SMW

SMW, thank you for the link. He's actually got it in his head that he doesn't have to pay ss. lol He hasn't read much. In WA there is precedence for spousal support when married more than 5 years, also age and how long it would take to educate or get a job etc. that will support you in the manner to which you are accustomed to. He has no clue. We've been married for 12 years and I've been a stay at home mom for 10 of those years and gave up an education or career. I sort of feel sorry for him. Poor DAM.