I hope you take some time every now and then to reread your own words - especially what you wrote at the top of this thread - you are a good man and you are finding a person in you that will be a gift to his children.
I know how much it hurts for things to move on as they do - and to feel so powerless about the dark journeys taken by our Ws...but once we let that go - and focus our energy and strength on ourselves the rewards are immeasurable...just as a couple people might have helped you, I want you to know that your posts - what you say about finding yourself and your changes - that's what men here need to read - and need to remember. While this website draws us in with the hope of saving our marriages - the real work - the real challenge - is in finding our selves - our better selves...and that's where real strength emerges.
I'm proud of everything you've accomplished and will continue to accomplish.
