How did she respond when you told her that? I'm thinking it sounds like more drama that you are creating? unless she responded okay to it.
I guess she was displeased that I was not willing to come and visit her over there. SHe may have said something like .."if that is the way you feel ..then suit yourself" ..she would have sid something like that after the stock answer that she always gives in defense of her ex " he is a good, decent Christian man and father to my daughter".
Well, I am either creating more drama or else I am being bullheaded (I am a taurus afterall) and refusing to go along with the existing drama (which I did not create). Too much of a circus act for me. So I am being loving from a distance and trying to remember how to GAL.
Perhaps she did not want you to see her in such a vulnerable and not-so-pretty state, if in fact she is wanting to pursue things with you again. That would be my thought. Cause in a way, you guys are dating again, and when your dating, for us girls, we don't want our guys to see us looking like crap.
this almost made me laugh. My darling usually does not go out of her way to veil her "vulnerable and not-so-pretty state's" from me. She generally does not believe she is pretty anyway ..but that is a whole 'nother story. It seems after that first couple weeks or so of courtship for us that our's is much more of a casual R. No emphasis placed on the rituals that go along with courtship (all that trickery and deceitfulness ..haha).
Speaking for myself (which is the extent that I like to curtail things at) I still find that I occasionally like to get dressed up and be my handsome self for her (course that doesn't take an awful lot )
hey, I would not put any blame on the exH, as he is probably looking at it as just trying to help her. Now, of course he could be looking at trying to reconcile himself, and to that, well, wow, that would make things a little complicated. But in the thought that he is not, I do not think he is being a "bad guy" per se (sp?)
but, you have made that call, so you should probably stick to your boundary. I would just act like you feel very uncomfortable, and with the circumstance you will be there for her in every other way.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Thinking of you T. Thanks for all of the prayers and support you send my way. I'll send up a few tonight for your darling and her hopefully speedy recovery...
hope to have her returning to my place perhaps as early as this w/e. She misses me and I miss her. The Lord connects us. No one else could do it better.
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