The key to this DB approach is to realize that there is really very little in life that we can control other than ourselves, and thus we must work on ourselves and our own problems, to get those in order, before we can even hope to mend the rift between us and our estranged spouses. More importantly, we must learn from the mistakes and the choices we have made that caused our marriages to fail, not so much to win our spouses back, but so that we will grow from this experience even if our spouses never respond. We may not succeed in winning our spouses back , but we will at the least become better people despite our failures.
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i know that i am the bad guy and that ive hurt her more than once.im currently seeking help to get myself better and show her that ive changed and love her till no end.
If you are seeing counseling for personal issues, that is good. Whatever those issues are, keep getting the help you need. This is as much for the benefit of your daughter as for anyone else. No matter what ultimately happens between you and your wife, your daughter just needs to know she is loved fully and equally by both parents.
