This really is lame but you gotta do what everyone says to do. There is nothing less attractive than a needy man. It is dumb, you have every right to feel all the feeling you have. And acting like you are completely in control will work better.
For my situation, the more I backed off, the more time my h was stuck to think about things. While I was on him in terms of wanting to talk, all his attention was focused on dealing with me. The silence of time to think produced results. I am separated - the space has been good actually as divorce would have been a 100% had we stayed together because things were heated. --- Not to say that this is the case with you, but if you can't control the separation it does not have to mean the end. Act like a friend, a very in control confident friend. Even though you are going through hell.
well, that's my 2 cents. I have not saved my marriage yet so feel free to discard!
