I've been trying to keep up with your sitch too. I must say my list was a venting list. But it's a starting point - interesting to see them in writing.
I am allowed a certain amount of ailmony due to our "long term" marriage. Just claim what's mine? I think that can happen nicely when both parties want out, when there's been problems for years, when they both agree the M should end - basically a 50/50 split and everyone's happy.
H has a PhD and has a much greater earning potential than me. I helped him get that degree by working 2 jobs so he could focus on his studies. Now he has an OW (aka Catbitch - 12 cats remember?) who also has a good paying job -someone who can help him out financially if he needs it. And he will, since he's close to maxing out three of his credit cards, oh, and making the monthly payment from our joint bank account. That's called "wasting marital assets".
Just want to make sure he and his L are aware of all this - it will make for interesting conversation at mediation.
You're right, it sucks!
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10
