True Love or True Fog? Part II - The Fertile Void

[AliSuddenly]

Hey Silverfox, I dont know what to advise you, its very sad, 20 years is such a long time, just want you to know I hear you and how sad you are right now.

One thing.. my ex said to me also "its not about her"... but he is now dating her (met her at work May 07?? Left Nov 07, begain dating her Aug 08).. so, basically, of course it is about her and it isnt that he's lying, its the guilt and feeling so bad.... they cant even admit to themselves that that IS why they left. I accept it IS why my ex left (he believed it was something he wanted/something he just had to do).. but I also understand that he cannot bear to admit that to me, perhaps not even to himself.

As for the list, I like that you want him to move back in and take care of things (why should you?) chances are he wont/cant though, so you may be setting yourslef up for a painful fight there, still worth asking if you feel strongly about it.

I'm not sure what you mean by "permanent alimony".. but I'm not sure its good to going after an ex financially, when really you are hurting emotionally. Just claim whats yours, morally, and walk away with your head held high??

Thinking of you, this all sucks and I feel for you as your H really did just walk out and hasnt even attempted to be your friend. As for mediation, why not ask whatever you feel you need to?
Al xxx