\My wife is going to leave me in 5 days--help!

[AFWAW]

Yeah, I hear you loud and clear Melissa. I didn't cry one time today. Just didn't feel like it for some reason. The wife spent most of the day here. She talked a little about the R but not much. Started w/ the dating thing again and I told her I wasn't interested in dating and didn't want to talk about it anymore. She said, well I know you have needs. I said do you have needs? She said she's not interested in sex? I said really, not ever? She said no, not for a couple of years now--interesting but makes sense as she hasn't been that into it---more of a giver than receiver. Said maybe one day she would be interested but not now--hmmmmn. She took my daughter to get her eyebrows waxed and refused to go to counseling today. I reminded her that she had agreed to go and she said she had gone and didn't feel the need to return. Ok I said and went by myself. The C said it sounds like she doesn't know what she wants based on previous interactions/conversations I've had with her since I've been home. I said, well she seems pretty confident with the moving out bit. She said, for now maybe and asked how long I would be willing to wait? That is a damn good question I said back. I haven't really considered that yet. I do love her but how long would I wait depends on a lot of things I guess. I hope I don't have to make that decision anytime soon. Also told the C about how the wife bought a washer and dryer while I was gone--it just came in and the wife said go get it, I will pay for it. Also asked me if I wanted a expensive blender I wanted a while back--I told her not to worry about. C said it sounds like she is feeling bad about her decision and trying to make it better w/ giving me material things. I don't know--it's all so confusing and frustrating.

Melissa, I guess if I had to pick, I am the adult today. Sounds like you are too. Hope you have a better day tomorrow.

John