Maybe it won't blow over this time, but honestly CL: I think you're doing your part to help solve the problem, and unfortunately, you can't do it entirely on your own.
I seemed to say everything wrong, when I got home. She was reactive to everything I said.
Her complaint was that I failed to validate what she was trying to say this morning. She did compliment me on staying with the difficult conversation, in a respectful manner.
She went to bed early, saying that she has so much to offer, and that I fail to appreciate it. I emailed her again, trying to paraphrase what I thought were her primary requests--listening, being more attentive, being present, improved sexual skill, compliments on her appearance.
She wrote that she is saddened by the deterioration of our M.
As you can see there was no opportunity to connect. She said there will be no re-connection until I validate what she was trying to say this morning.
I'm going to work on letting things happen and accept that her choices and reactions are beyond my control.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
