Somethings that just popped into my head about last night that are memorable..
She mentioned that it really "burns" when she can tell in my tone of voice that I don't want to talk to her. I had mentioned that there are days I wish she would drop off the earth.
She also stated that she's going back on AD's as she having panic attacks again. And that the only time she's content is when she's studying and at school. So much for being the happiest she's ever been; but I could tell different. She never looks nor acts happy; her face is constantly broken out with acne.
This guy she's with; she told me that we're a lot alike. Which from what little I know; I believe there are some similarities. I guess he was engaged earlier in his life; they bought a house and he found his fiance in bed with another man. Now, supposedly, he knows all about my W's adulterous way and yet he's standing by her. If this is true, he's a serious co-dependent with self-esteem issues. 35, never been married, no kids...and hooked up with a married woman, who cheats, doesn't have her kids, and is telling him everything he wants to hear.
This guy is headed for trouble..and I ain't stopping it.
And someday, BOTH of them are going to be HIGHLY likely to do to the other what they've already done.
I can't for the life of me undertand why someone would agree to have a relationship with -- much less marry -- an unrepentant adulterer. It's like hiring someone who bad-mouths their former employer: THEY'RE GOING TO BE DOING THAT TO YOU SOMEDAY!!!
that is so true puppy!! my oldest daughters dad, cheated on me, married the ow soon as we were divorced, and guess what? she has been cheating on him so they just got divorced!! karma baby. oh and when he called to tell me about it he was crying about how bad it hurt, uh DUH bud!
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
Settlement discussion is over..it went well..kids will stay with me on school nights and we will rotate every other weekend. She will get to pick them up from school twice a week and have them for dinner; but they come back home before bed. I can live with that.
I get the Volvo and she gets the Jimmy. Didn't really want that; but since I'm paying on the Volvo and it's in my name only it stays with me. Jimmy is paid for; but in the agreement, it comes back to me once she buys another vehicle. That, of course, is if it's worth anything at that time.
Overall, we agreed on most everything. I think it's fair to both of us and provides for the kids. No emotions involved; in fact, we went to lunch together afterward.
Two strange bits of info though..she told me that after our talks last night; she broke it off with OM. Said that my statement about her inability to work on herself while in the midst of a relationship with another man caused her to realize that he was preventing her from getting healthy. She said that he was upset about it; but understood. I thought that was strange and if it's true; remarkable. I still have reservations that it IS true. Time will tell.
She also told me that OM's mother called her a "terrible mother" because she didn't have custody of her kids. I was like "WOW!!" that was a piece of news that I'm sure had an effect on her R with OM. If he was still wanting her after that; he really is damaged.
That's the update. I'm in a good place and ready to do this.
but her typical way of telling stories is to project. My thoughts on the reality of her sitch is that HE has probably broken it off and SHE didn't take it very well. She has a tendency to reverse the situations in her stories when the reality doesn't favor her. She uses this technique to impress people. Quite perverse really; but par for the course.
{{{Tom}}} Wow..a very interesting few days for you and you sound like you are still the same YOU..not phased by any of this, which I wouldn't think you would be..you definitely are not someone to "settle for"..and you know that..it will be interesting to see if her actions follow her words, which I know is exactly what you are thinking too..
I would have thought like Puppy about the "cooling off"..which, at least in my hub's case, didn't last long, if at all LOL!
I hope you have a good rest of your week my friend and thanks for updating us
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
Well Tawnya...I'm in a good place because I checked out of this M a long time ago myself. However, I felt convicted by God to open up the door for her since she seems to searching for Him in some fashion. She stated that she has no intention to reconcile at this time; so then, neither do I.
I'm ready to change my screen name to divorcedCrazy
