fb2, yes, I should have said "in the long run"... I didn't specify that they wouldn't be fine on day one of the divorce.

But, it's not BS and lies, it's one psychologists opinion. You're entitled to your opinion too.

Doc does not "make money" telling me what I want to hear. Why do you assume that ? Who is better to judge if he's "telling me what I want to hear" you or me ?

So you would recommend that a person stay in a "sick" relationship & let the "sick" one continue infecting and contaminating the whole family ???

I'm sure somewhere along the marriage vows, H promised to protect me, care for me, & keep me safe. Doesn't that include safe from him ??

Where did I say lie to the kids ?

M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months
4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10
I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.