Yep. He called tonight and said he went with someone else. I kind of thought that after the interview, I can usually tell how it's going. He didn't ask me any questions, so just said he thought I was overqualified. Was concerned about my kids. I did try to sell myself, assuring my kids would be with their dad, and I love animals, and would love the job, etc. But I think he was 99% convinced he didn't want to hire me. I know, I know if I was Puppy I would have been able to do it, but there's part of me that thinks well maybe that wasn't the right job for me, since the hiring person seemed so negative. Shoot, I always do better with women hirers too for some reason. They always think I'm too good for the job or something, I don't know why that is. You know I want that job prob. as bad as anybody else that applied if not more. But I'm back to doing more job applications. And it was a good experience, if I get an interviewer like that again, I think I would do better next time, although don't know if I'd be able to convince them.
H was going to take the kids for 2 days b/c his roommate is out of town this week he says. He brought them back at lunch today though half a day later, b/c D9 wanted to go to her art club. I got some extra hsing done today that I thought I wouldn't get to, and took her there. Looked at a rental also with them, but it looked a little like it might be unsafe. Lots of mobile homes and kind of a shack next door with a VERY loud dog barking. They just seemed very rundown and next door they had like a junkyard in the back. I wouldn't mind it so much, but do want to find someplace safe for me and the kids. I have 2 local realtors looking for places, so I'm feeling positive about the house search anyway.
My L gave me a copy of a letter she mailed to H's L yesterday. It was rude again, warning him to advise his client not to threaten me anymore about where I live, and saying "my client" has undergone therapy so I'm no longer intimidated by H.
She did ask for the emails and I would like to do what is needed legally, but I think every time H and I are getting along somewhat like we have this week working out the kids stuff and him being distantly polite and friendly, then my L sends off a rude letter or email to his L, and we take 2 steps back. Karen
But he does threaten you and tries to intimidate you into doing what he wants. He thinks sweet Karen is going to do what he wants as long as he says it nicely. Your L is sticking up for you too. She can see how much you have grown.
Just hold your ground. You can be nice and firm(with the emphasis on the firm). He is trying to break you down, don't let him. He has done enough/said enough that if I ever met the man I would have to slap him for being such a jerk to you.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Just hold your ground. You can be nice and firm(with the emphasis on the firm). He is trying to break you down, don't let him. He has done enough/said enough that if I ever met the man I would have to slap him for being such a jerk to you.
kat
Kat, and you know I would love to give your X a slap for the same reason!!!
I was thinking about sending an apology email or at least explaining the L stuff is business, etc., but I guess it's not my job to apologize for my L and if he wasn't threatening me in the first place she wouldn't have done that...I didn't even tell my L about it, she had asked if he still wanted the kids in ps and I said yeah, he just emailed me this week and was making it clear that if I want things to go well, and not get deposed or go to trial, I should move to his town so they can public school. The funny thing is I think he should be way more avoiding that stuff than me, yeah, I was depressed, but the way he treated me was horrible plus the A, and I would plan on being honest if it came to that.
I was bummed yesterday about the job, but feel fine today. Picked up D9's girl scout cookies this am and chatted with the other moms and kids. The kids were home when I got back. I'm getting really good at being elsewhere when H comes over! I went to the coffee shop for dinner last night and that was fun too. I'm still getting used to going places alone!
I was listening to some happy music today in the car, that song "I'm a Believer" from the Shrek movie was on and I'm having good PMA today. I had a thought that I just need to find someone that will stick with me through thick and thin, but hopefully mostly thin (I mean on my part)!!! Karen
I took the kids to a special kid's day they had at the nearby town kid's museum. They had lots of arts and crafts which D9 loves, and some entertainment. H said he wanted me to have the kids today and tomorrow b/c his roommate is getting back from a trip and would want the apartment to himself. Well, at least that's nicer than saying I have a romantic day or weekend planned with OW which is prob. the real truth.
Stuff like that is painful, but I just tell myself that it'll be good to have someone like that out of my life!!!
I hope everyone is having a Happy Valentine's Day!!! Karen
I'm back on the job hunt today. Going to fax my resume to a local job today and I think they left a phone # in the paper also so will call too. Surprisingly, I still actually have some optimism left which you wouldn't think! I'm going to check out the library on some interviewing books and try to get some tips, I've done some good interviews, but the last one was hard for me! So will work on that too.
H started out my am this morning witching about D9 losing her glasses. He asked me why I didn't ask at the church sooner? I told him I asked as soon as I realized she lost them around the time we were there, and different people handle things differently, and we are just doing our best. You can guess what I really wanted to say. No smileys to him of course. I won't get into that defend stuff with him anymore, so if he emails again I'll just ignore them. I'm just glad I'm no longer going to be married to someone that criticizes everything I do. It's so easy to be critical of the person that does the 6 days of parenting a week. I'm sure I'd be able to do that with him if the situation was reversed--but of course I wouldn't!!! Karen
At this point, it might be refreshing to just go off on him. But I know you shouldn't.
Hang in there, sweety. We know your doing the best you can.
Thanks, and yeah, I wanted to do that!!! He emailed me a 2nd time saying I was crazy that I didn't look at the school right away before i spent time looking in the house. Well, I looked at the school when I realized they might be there which I explained in my email to him, but he prob. doesn't read it very much. Turns out they were in the car! S15 found them! D9 stuck them in one of those side compartments in the back seat, which I never use, and we don't use really, b/c she took a car nap last week she said. So glad I don't have to go to WW3 with H over them!!! Karen
I feel good about myself that I didn't get into defending or attacking him or whatever. Hopefully, this'll be over soon! Karen
No smileys to him of course. I won't get into that defend stuff with him anymore, so if he emails again I'll just ignore them. I'm just glad I'm no longer going to be married to someone that criticizes everything I do. It's so easy to be critical of the person that does the 6 days of parenting a week. I'm sure I'd be able to do that with him if the situation was reversed--but of course I wouldn't!!! Karen