How hard can it be to sleep in another room? My husband was sick one night this week, and I spent approximately 20 minutes cleaning my daughter's room, putting fresh linens on the bed, retrieving my toothbrush from the master bedroom, and voila! I had my own room. And it was so nice to sleep in a room alone, with fresh sheets, and my own bathroom, but I digress.
Let's see....
How hard can it be to have an affair? (I couldn't but to some it is easy) How hard can it be to not have an affair? (I find this one easy, but for others it is not so easy or none of us would be here) How hard can it be to forgive your spouse? (This one is hard but I am getting there) How hard can it be to not to kick the OM A$$..
Ok I will confess if he lived closer it would be harder...
Sara, I am trying not to judge others. This journey has me really working on myself. I know it was meant to help my marriage but for some reason I am questioning my own thoughts and actions. Especially on judging others. The woman I work with may come into work and be a real Bi%ch. But how do I know what her home life is like? How would I know if she just found out her husband was cheating on her? Or her husband is abusive? I do not know what is causing her attitude so I can not judge her. I do not know what was so difficult with this move either. I am not a head doctor.. (Though I played one on TV).. Maybe this was hard on wife because now she is "alone". Maybe sleeping in son’s room gave her comfort. Maybe now it will be easier for her to seek comfort in me..
I just got back from taking son out to get stuff for his room. WE had some great Father Son time / talks. Even though wife before said son was not too happy about her moving out of his room….. you could sure have fooled me. This morning (his first night in his own bed) he told me he slept GREAT. He was telling me what he wanted in his room. We took down all the "baby posters"... He wants the night light taken out... he seems really happy to get his own room back..
So yes Sara it might have been easy for you but for some reason it was not for my wife.. So I do give her credit for moving out of her comfort zone. This move was for all of us. All three of us are going to benefit from this...
Now I want to commend you on cleaning up your husbands.."Mess" this is another area that some find easy others don't. I personally do not like it myself but when I was raising my D's by myself someone had to do it. As for my wife? She gets sick thinking about someone throwing up. I have found that it is easier for me to clean up after son gets sick than to wait for wife to do it and then I end up cleaning up after her also... Ok now this may sound strange to everyone but I do think I had a break through today. Wife asked me to clean the bathroom floor. Ok this is good because you might ask? Well this is communication. Wife very rarely asks me to do anything. I have needed to be a mind reader. ”she should not have to ask me. I should be able to see it needs to be done” I have been told so many times before. And all along she would be irritated becasue I had not done it…. So I am more that happy to fulfill this request...
I have not done today’s dare yet.....
Day 5: Love is not rude
He who blesses his friend with a loud voice early in the morning, it will be reckoned a curse to him.
—Proverbs 27:14
TODAY’S DARE
Ask your spouse to tell you three things that cause him or her to be uncomfortable or irritated with you. You must do so without attacking them or justifying your behavior. This is from their perspective only.
Well I still need to go do the bathroom I will return after I do this dare..
Later Doc
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
